It is possible that this man does have very strong feelings for you, but even if he feels like he is in love with you, he is not willing to treat you lovingly by your standards. I know you asked for a Muslim’s take on this issue, and I mention religion very little because what you need to understand is that this has nothing to do with religion.
He’s got priorities that outrank you, and continuing this relationship will be a constant struggle between his family, his culture, and/or his religious views and you. This is a universal truth, or at least universal enough to respect it as a rule, acknowledging that there are occasional exceptions.
He can’t or won’t be the husband and father that you seek, and it doesn’t matter if his reasons are due to culture, religion, or other things.
All you need to know is that this relationship can’t give you what you want, and it will take from you more than it gives.
I sincerely hope you find the love and happiness you seek with someone who can give it to you without reservation.
Shy Desi Boy replies: I once heard my Muslim female friend give her non-Muslim friends the following advice: if the Muslim you are dating does not tell his/her parents—or at least his/her friends—within the first year of the relationship, then walk away.
I find myself in a hard situation with a Muslim man I love.
Of course I understand that in any relationship there is a period in the beginning where you may want to keep your relationship private, where you are still negotiating your differences.
At the time, I hated to hear this advice because I was that guy—the Muslim in a relationship with a non-Muslim girl that few of my friends knew about.
I rationalized this by telling myself we come from different cultural and religious backgrounds that I was not doing this to hurt her.
"Would you like me to tell you the difference between making love to an Egyptian woman and a European woman?
" "Mike", my driver in Luxor, leaned forward and gazed sincerely in my eyes. They have sex for two minutes, just to relieve themselves, and the women lie like boards.
I do believe it is possible for a non-Muslim and a Muslim to be together.