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Ask yourself ‘How keen am I on talking to this person again? As always, let us stress that the best way to decide whether things are going well is not to judge the person in isolation but to imagine yourself having a relationship with them. If you know by the end of the first (or subsequent) calls that you’re not going to take things further, then say so, rather than leaving things unclear.
If you find it hard to give such a rejection – particularly as you’re doing so in person rather than in an email, write out beforehand some ‘no’ lines and mentally rehearse them, or keep the written phrases by you as an aide memoire.
If you are on a first phone call, suggest another one fairly soon – and then follow up with a positive email within 24 hours.
If you’re two or three phone calls in, it may be time to suggest a meeting.
Once again, general reasons are kinder: “I’ve liked talking with you, but I don’t sense a spark between us, and I’d like to leave it at that for now.” If you know by the end of the call that you’d like to take things further, then say so.