Living in China, a foreign woman would mostly likely be expected to adapt to Chinese culture, which would be very difficult for a woman with independent views.” What I wanted to say is, most independent Western women don’t care to participate in the expected gender roles, where overly-protective Chinese men treat their women like needy princesses.
A dating culture where families interfere with relationships and where dating must almost certainly end in marriage is something far from what we are used to.
A lot of the women are beautiful, but a substantial portion are pushy, demanding and in general make unpleasant company.
Of course, this can be considered acting for TV, but that type of behavior does bleed over into the general culture.
But, like travelling, it can be an enriching experience.
In my coaching, I approach these and many other existential life issues related to moving, living and working abroad.
Western women are used to the more proactive and direct approach when it comes to being asked out on a date.
However, Chinese men might start by asking if you like Chinese guys in general, send you the occasional text or offer to carry your purse (which is something Chinese women expect and men do willingly), but it takes a long time for them to express their actual liking for you, let alone ask you out on a date.
Chinese men also tend to be shy, they don’t flirt or ‘check out’ women openly so it’s hard to tell whether they like you or not. You see all the news about the economic success in China.But something even more important to you that doesn't get all the headlines is the fact that you have the opportunity to date beautiful women in China. When you watch Western TV, what type of women do you see?Making up fake stories is not something I normally do but it’s very hard to decline anything in China.People take their role of host and trying to make you feel comfortable in their country very seriously, which is something I value greatly.
Let me also say that in my experience, Chinese men are absolute gentlemen and will go out of their way to make you feel comfortable.