” Within The Maybe Zone there are typically two big traps.There is the Friend Trap (commonly also dubbed ‘The Friend Zone’), and there is the Friends-With-Benefits Trap (sometimes called the ‘F-buddy’ Zone).Is there a way to get out of these traps and still get into a relationship with the same guy? In the case of the Friend Trap: The preferred option should always be to put distance between you.You can still be nice to him, but you can also be totally honest and say “I have feelings for you, and need to put some distance between us in order to stay friends”.an alignment of values and standards) to see something more serious happening in the long-term.The first thing to remember is that it doesn’t make a guy a bad guy just because he doesn’t want a relationship.For example, not every guy you have sex with will be your idea of a perfect boyfriend.Some of it just comes down to compatibility issues.
The Friends-With-Benefits Trap happens when you are having sex (or some sexual activity) with a guy, and although you want him to be your boyfriend he never wants to commit.In the Get The Guy book Matt and I used the term ‘Perceived Value’ which might be a better way to think of Respect in this context. It can be: These are just a few things that will cross a guy’s mind when he thinks about a relationship, and if he doesn’t imagine them happening then he’ll place a girl in the Friends-With-Benefits Zone.It’s the place where he likes the girl, he’s attracted, but he doesn’t feel enough Connection and Respect (i.e.Just recognise it for what it is and spot the signs of a guy not moving anything forward either emotionally or physically.(2) Begin to create immediate physical and emotional distance. Once a guy has a fixed opinion of you, it’s very difficult to change it.
At first you think he has issues with commitment, but then you realise you’ve seen him with a girlfriend before.